helping disabled people

Four years are now gone since I for the first time in my life on earth got deeply interested with disabled people, I have six very close friends who are disabled and the fact that they were either born with a condition or they got it on the life road, does not make me view them differently from anybody else, anyway, why should I view them differently if: they go to school like you and me, they work for big companies like you and me, they teach and lecture, they sport, something that not many of us do, they pay bills, and even have better families! In this post you will learn the 10 best ways to treat a disabled person. Read on…..


Two poor disabled Tanzanians in Dar es Salaam ...

Two poor disabled Tanzanians in Dar es Salaam city on Eid day. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


When I were a young kid, I always thought that all that a disabled person needed was a coin that I always used to drop for some of them on the road side as I went to the play ground or to church on Sunday, my perception was changed when I for the first time in my life met a blind Lawyer Mr. Kibaya Laibota and later met one on one with

Henry Nzungi a 100 metre Para-Olympic athlete, how many Kenyans are known to run short races like Nzungi?  This is how I started making tight relations with disabled people and being close to them, taught me the following:

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Here are 10 best ways to treat a disabled person…

  1. If it is your first time to meet a disabled person, always take that chance to introduce yourself and anybody else you are with, if the person is blind, make sure that  no whispers take place and if deaf make sure you talk looking at the person directly so that they can get you clearly through lip reading or otherwise.

  2. Leaning on a wheel chair while talking to someone is considerably annoying, this is because a wheelchair is part of that person, how would you fill if someone was talking to you leaning or stepping on you?

  3. Never say hello, to people with disabilities from a distance they as will think that you are avoiding them for their condition, always shake hands with the person even if they are wearing artificial hands for they will see the appreciation side of the handshake. If you don’t shake hands with someone with a skin disability, they will definitely think it is their skin you are avoiding.

  4. Most of the disabled brothers and sisters out there need your help so much, so it is always good to offer assistance but each time you think of doing so, wait until the offer is directly permitted, and then wait for instruction.

  5. If you love patting people while talking to them, do not try it here, patting someone on a wheel chair on his/her shoulders will irritate the person just like patting a blind person will scare them.

  6. If talking to someone who has difficulties in speaking, please listen to them carefully and avoid finishing sentences that they could not finish or trying to correct words that they did not mention well, be patient and wait for them to finish what they have to say before interrupting.

  7. Avoid using words or sentences that may without your intention annoy the person, such words are; look at him, may God help him, how does he manage life, he can see me, run away he might not catch you, God must be crazy, for when you tell someone else names or such sentences, near a disabled person you should know that their ears are so sensitive that they can hear a sound from a distance twice as you e.g. a visually impaired person.

  8. Use good titles when referring to them just like you do with other able people, e.g. call them Mr, Mrs, Miss, Madam, Prof., eng., so as to let them fill that they are what they are what they have worked hard and smart for, avoid tags like; visually impaired, blind, deaf, dumb, and others.

  9. Avoid making them fill second class people, this means that if you are visiting the washrooms, avoid using that which is special for them, and when getting in a lift, avoid scrambling them at the door step.

  10. Treat them friendly as if they were your own brothers, and sisters for they always wait for that chance to be appreciated because of that part of their body that is missing or not working.



Having done the above things, you will never have any disabled person thinking that you are so heartless and inhuman, that you do not deserve life and instead of them being disabled, you should be, instead.


Now over to you


How do you view disabled people? What is your definition about them? How do you think we balance how to relate with them and in what other ways, different from the above points?