January 1st is indeed a day never to be forgotten in my entire life. It was the most memorable day in my life, the day when the woman who brought me into existence left to be with her maker.
She is the most significant and most precious person in my life, one in whose contribution to my life can never be computed.
Of course, some of you already know who I’m talking about, right?
I was recently interviewed on Sanu’s blog and I can still remember the young man asking me what the saddest moment of my life was.
I had without mincing words mentioned to him that, “The day I lost my mum was by far the saddest moment of my life.”
Now, some of you may think, “why is he posting this or what is the big deal of losing a mum, after all, I also have”. Well, it doesn’t matter what you say.
I however believe that when I’m done sharing with you my painful experience you would get to understand how painful it really was and how her absent has slowed me down in my journey to success.
Before I continue I’d like to share with you what actually stirred me to writing this article.
7days ago, my biggest buddy , Phillip Dews published on his great blog an article to commemorate the passing of his mother who died on the 25th of December. A day filled with joy and goodwill, one in which everyone comes together and celebrate the birth of Jesus and everything in-between.
That was the day Philip lost his mother. This therefore means when Phillip was supposed to be rejoicing he was sorrowing.
I’m sure it was the darkest moment in Philip’s life and I so resonated with that article as I’ve been through that phase myself. I’m so sorry about your mum, Philip!
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My Greatest Plight
George Elliot once wrote: “There is no despair so absolute as that which comes with the first moments of our first great sorrow, when we have not yet known what it is to have suffered and healed, to have despaired and have recovered hope.”
I totally concur to George’s opinion as losing my mum was by far the greatest sorrow of my life and it had strike me just like a thunderstorm.
I still could remember very vividly that Tuesday morning, when several of my folks were celebrating and jollificating to have seen a New Year, I was there in that hospital crying my eyes out.
The doctor had said to me, “Sorry son, we tried all we could but we lost your mother.”
Such words were only known to me from the many tragedy movies have seen but this time, it was being directed to me.
Man it’s been six years since this gory incidence happened and that my inestimable jewel left this world to that glorious home and it still feels like just yesterday as the memories we had together are still very fresh.
Obviously, I’ve got a lot of things to say about my mum as I was for 17years her right hand man. I have always believed, long before my mother died, that, with her jerry curled hair and admirable intellect, perhaps she knew as much as any other person. Perhaps she knew how important learning, sharing and given good things in love is.
If you’ve at some point wonder how I come up with interesting and helpful articles then you’ve got my momma to be thankful for!
I read two or so days ago, a friend Facebook status, which reads something like, “Who is the person that has most inspired you?” I remember saying “everybody and everything”.
I later thought deeply about it and realize that my mum of course is the principal person that has inspired me the most.
She’s the most prized person in my life. She loves and cherished me so much even to a fault.
Truth is I almost lost balance when she passed on as we were so close; we were like husband and wife. Wherever she goes I go, whatever she puts on I put on. What she eats I eat. Did I mention she raised me all alone by herself?
Man, she’s an epitome of a devoted mother!
Of all January 1st I’ve witnessed so far in my life this was the most heartrending and disheartening moments of my life but as a man I’ve learned to move forward even though I know deep down in the inside of me that I can never forget about her.
I have missed you so much mother! People have tried their best to take your role but their best seems not to be good enough because you aren’t the one rendering that best.
You brought sorrow to the heart of many when you suddenly departed. I will always love you forever because you mean the world to me.
It was clear to me that I won’t be able see my mother again, not even her vault as she was buried in a government area where it’s impossible to see her in order to pay homage, like dropping on her vaults beautiful flowers.
So to commemorate my late mother, I figured out and promised myself, that I was going to make her proud by succeeding by all means legit.
I’m not yet there but I‘m grateful to God that I’m not where I used to be.
“Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them.” – George Eliot “
”The life of the dead is placed in the memory of the living.” – Marcus Tullius Cicero
“Death is but a graduation from time to eternity.”- Sam Adeyinka
Friends, these quotes and many more had taught and sharpened my life and mind in many magical ways.
Come to think of it, I realize that thinking about my mum always inspire and always sparks up the fire in me to succeed irrespective of any huddles that may cross my way.
Many are those that have asked me how I was able to deal with that graving and gruesome situation.
A friend of mine, Shavon Smith recently told me how surprised she was that I am this ambitious and focused. I’d like to put it in her words.
“You are a really good guy and I see you’re doing something with your life instead of becoming a drug addict or something.”
Now that was Shavon’s view about my person. If I start to mention several others who have been taken by surprise to see me pursue my purpose like my entire life depend on it which of course it does mother, you’d be surprise.
Back To You!
I planned writing an epic shit here but sincerely I couldn’t as the tears would not stop rolling, this literally impedes me from writing my usually long and meaningful posts. Hope you understand.
We’ve all at one point or the other lost our dear ones. Ain’t we? But have you ever lost anyone closer to your heart on a special day like this or not? I sincerely would love to read your two cent and comments below.
I wish you all the best my distinguished readers and hope you all have an overflowing 2014! You will indeed supernaturally dominate your world!!